Today is a good day to die.
Not physically die, but die to my selfish desires.
Tomorrow is also a good day to die. And the next day, and the next, and the next.
I have a problem however, my natural tendency is toward selfishness and pride. Traits that weaken my marriage and leads to distrust and isolation.
My pride tells me to focus on myself, my wants, my feelings, and my desires. Left unchecked, it isn’t long before I begin to feel entitled and bitter.
At the same time, I desire intimacy.
So do you.
I think we all want to find and connect with that one person who knows us fully and loves us deeply.
Dying every day to my selfishness creates many positive results in my marriage.
Your marriage will survive for years if you decide to die. Everyday.
Dying daily enables forgiveness, and leads to a strong and thriving marriage. We must die daily and lay aside what we think we deserve, in order to give love, mercy, and grace to our spouse.
Sadly, we have witnessed self-love shatter multiple marriages.
So choose to die everyday because the benefits are what we really desire.
A couple of benefits of dying everyday:
Dying daily frees us to forgive.
If you are already ‘dead,’ then there is nothing to lose and nothing to protect.
Remember, when you forgive, you are actually freeing yourself from the prison of bitterness and pain. It is our pride that leads us to hold on to an offense and to work it until bitterness takes root.
When we die daily, we kill our pride and open our hearts to healing, reconciling, and restoring.
Dying daily creates marital intimacy.
If you are dead, humility comes much easier, and there is no need to control. When we die daily, our agendas becomes about focusing on our spouses needs and showing them that they are loved. When we choose that way, intimacy skyrockets.
Self love is rooted in pride and bitterness, and it’s the opposite to marital intimacy. But when we die to ourselves, it will lead us toward a strong and thriving marriage.
So go ahead and die.