Caroline and I have had several marriage mentors over the years and learned many valuable lessons from each and every one of them. Everything from decision making to fostering certain attitudes and disciplines, our marriage mentors have guided us through our crazy marriage adventure.
Marriage is Hard. Get some help.
It’s not one of those things you want to do it alone.
Having a marriage mentor is not a sign of weakness. It shows you are smart enough and passionate enough to want your marriage to succeed.
Who is mentoring your marriage? Still need more convincing that you need one?
Top 5 reasons to have a marriage mentor:
Marriage mentors gave us encouragement to keep us going.
Our mentors were there for us no matter what. They were our biggest cheerleaders. There were times, that without our mentors we could have easily “caved-in” on some of our marriage goals. Our mentors wouldn’t let us quit. Instead, they encouraged us and guided us, which gave us hope that we could actually do marriage well.
Marriage mentors provide knowledge and wisdom.
When first starting out, Caroline and I had no idea what was involved in building a great marriage. Having marriage mentors with us from the start, we had access to a wealth of knowledge that put us on a good path, and prevented a lot of stupid mistakes.
Marriage mentors can see things you can’t.
Our marriage mentors had a way of seeing more of our faults and potential issues than we did. They were brutally honest with us and told us exactly what we needed to hear. This was crucial as we wanted to know where we were lacking so we could improve.
Marriage mentors are sounding boards.
When we first got married, we had a lot of ideas of what marriage should look like. We shared these ideas with our mentors who helped us see which ones had potential and why others were better left alone. We needed their unfiltered honesty because we might have otherwise pursued a idea that could have caused some serious damage.
Marriage mentors have the experiences you can learn from.
Marriage is challenging enough, so if you can skip doing things the hard way, why wouldn’t you? Our mentors have been right where we were, and had made mistakes that they used as a basis for helping us to skip pain and consequences of not knowing.
We feel fortunate enough to have had many amazing marriage mentors and are now, after 20 years of marriage, in a position to return the favor to others.
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