If there has ever been a time for married couples to surround themselves with other married couples to encourage them in their journey, it is now.
Our suggestion is to find a couple that has been married for at least 20 years. You need to have long term vision for your marriage, so surround yourself with people that have been standing together through a significant amount of time and experiences.
Hopefully, you’ve spent the last month or so trying to identify a few married couples you hope will mentor you. You’ve been watching them from a far and stalking them on social media! You have narrowed the search down to one particular couple. Now what?
Don’t text, email, DM, Voxer, or Facebook message them. Don’t even call them.
Ask them in person if possible, and make it personal. It’s going to be a bit awkward, and you’ll probably be a little nervous, but muster up the courage and ask them to walk along side of you, the sooner the better.
It will be one of the best marriage decisions you will ever make.
Once you make the ask, and they say yes, it’s time to figure out what your new mentor relationship will look like. The plan will of course look different for every mentor relationship, so create a format that works for both couples.
After a few months of mentoring, you have a couple in your corner that you can trust and turn to during a rough patch.
In short, you’ll have new friends for life.